Our heads get us into trouble. Feelings get triggered by anything and everything, and some of us are more diligent about managing our feelings than others. Our thoughts follow long-standing habit and negative patterns that may not always serve us well.
Our heads get us into trouble. Feelings get triggered by anything and everything, and some of us are more diligent about managing our feelings than others. Our thoughts follow long-standing habit and negative patterns that may not always serve us well. Thoughts and feelings can seem difficult to control. But God wants the transformation of your mind. It’s what He calls us to. So how can you experience that?
Think of Jesus here on earth. He experienced all the temptations you and I do. He felt all the human feelings we have; sadness, loneliness, fatigue, joy, even anger. But can you imagine Him ever wasting time on worry, or playing around with lustful images in His mind, or nursing bitterness against someone who mistreated Him?
Clearly we have a problem. Our minds are not like Jesus’ mind right now, but we are called to have the “mind of Christ.” (1 Corinthians 2:16) How do we get there?
The foundational Scripture this idea comes from is one you may have read or heard many times: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2) Renewing sounds like a process, one we must continue to engage in.
I know my thoughts and feelings are dramatically different than when I was trapped in my dysfunction twenty years ago. Here are some principles of how you can experience lasting transformation of your mind too.
People Make a Difference
Jim Rohn famously said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” You are likely to display similar values, financial success, religious and political views, level of positivity, etc. as that of the people you hang out with the most.
Jesus did not spend His time equally with everyone. You too have a choice of what kind of people you allow to influence you. Some people drag you down simply by being in their presence; limit your time around them. Others lift you up and draw out the best in you; invest often in these kinds of relationships.
Yes, we are called to be a positive godly influence in a dark world. But pay attention to the kind of people you allow closest to you. Especially if you are struggling with negative or ungodly thoughts and feelings, look at your friends. Ensure that those you spend the most time with are the kind of people you want to be more like, who are going after the same godly things you desire.
Soak in God’s Word
Prior to marrying my husband Al, I spent months soaking in Song of Solomon. I lost count of how many times I read and pondered the messages in that book prior to my marriage. Doing so dramatically changed my emotional and spiritual preparedness for the intimacy of marriage. After Al’s death I marinated in Paul’s treatise on death and resurrection in 1 Corinthians 15, and that greatly impacted my grief journey.
Following a prescribed Bible reading plan is fine. And I believe all of us should regularly read through the whole Bible. But when facing a challenge such as fear, bitterness, poor self-image, lack of courage, lust, money troubles, grief, worry, marriage conflict, or any number of other issues, delving deeply into God’s word in a specific area can make a huge difference.
God’s word changes you if you spend enough time there. I’m not talking about 5 minutes on your way out the door in the morning, though that’s better than not opening the Bible at all. I’m talking about an extended time of letting the bone-and-marrow-splitting power of Scripture penetrate your soul, wash out the junk, and fill it to overflowing with God’s truth and grace. (See Hebrews 4:12)
If your mind needs transformation, if you need different thoughts and feelings, you can get there. Pay attention to the media, the people, and the Scripture you take in, and the output your mind produces will be transformed.
Written By: Dr. Carol